I hope you’ve all had a great week so far, and that you have some amazing plans for the weekend! We’ve been busy over here gearing up for my little sister’s wedding next weekend, and as you can imagine, things are a little hectic! The madness will continue next week too, since all our out- of-town family will be here, including my brother, his wife and my baby niece who I plan to spoil rotten and get my baby fix for an whole week!
But before things get too crazy I really wanted to share with any expecting and new twin mama’s some tips that will help when caring for twins. I’ve had many women message and email me with questions in the past year looking for suggestions and advice when it comes to raising twins, so here are my Tips for Twin Mom’s.
1) Get on a routine ASAP
If I could only offer one piece of advice to twin mama’s for the rest of my life, this would be it. To me this is the most important, and crucial part of caring for twins, especially when they’re babies. Establishing a routine or schedule will help you manage your time, so that you can make the most of any down time, and it also does wonders for your sanity! You will feel much more organized and it’s also beneficial for babies as well. They will get used to the routine quickly and your days will run more smoothly, leaving you much less stressed out.
2) Do everything for your twins at the same time
Feed them at the same time if possible (or one after the other), change their diapers, put them down for a nap at the same time, ALWAYS! This will help you get the most “free time”. By doing this with my twins it gave me about an hour of “free time” every 3-4 hours, where I could pump, shower, eat, clean or rest.
3) Don’t put twins to sleep in the same crib
Nurses used to recommend the opposite, and I understand why. Twins shared a womb, so it may be comforting to share a crib, but It’s not safe to do. Even though it may not seem likely, it’s entirely possible that one baby could roll into or onto the other, resulting in injury or suffocation .It’s just not a risk worth taking.
4) Speaking of sleep, Get your twins to sleep through the night ASAP
This is crucial. This will allow you and the rest of your family to start getting a good nights sleep and maybe even *gasp* time for a social life with your spouse or friends!
5) Don’t buy two of everything
It’s totally not necessary to have two bathtubs, swings, bouncers, jolly jumpers…etc. You only need multiples of things that you use heavily, like bibs, cribs, high chairs and other essentials!
6) Never isolate one twin from the other when sick
That’s just dumb. It’s better to have the non-sick child catch whatever the sick one has sooner rather than later. If they’re sick at the same time then you won’t have to go to the doctors twice or take double the time off work. As someone who has had twins sick at the same time, and also sick at different times, it’s honestly much easier in the long run to have them sick at the same time.
7) Run errands during nap time
If you have to go to an appointment or run other daytime errands, plan your trips around naptime so that babies will (hopefully) fall asleep, allowing you to get your errands done while they sleep soundly in their stroller, or car seat. I used to do this at least once a week just so I could go to Target and sip a latte while browsing, just to get out of the house.
8) Accept help from friends & family
This was the hardest thing for me. I’m an ocd, type A, control freak, independent, DIY kinda woman, so it took me a long time to accept help when people offered it. If someone offers to cook or clean for you, let them! Taking help isn’t being weak, it’s being strong enough to know you need it. Having a little help allows you to take care of yourself. I find that when I’m able to properly care for myself, it makes me a better person, and a better mother to my kids.
9) Cut corners
You’re busy raising TWO tiny humans, if that isn’t a good enough reason to slack and cut some corners, I don’t know what is! Make things as easy for yourself as possible.If you can have your groceries delivered DO IT! Shop online for holiday gifts. When you cook, double or even triple the recipe and freeze the extra meals. And if your budget allows, maybe even hire a cleaning and/or laundry service every now and again!
10) Treat your twins as individuals
Just because your babies are twins, doesn’t mean they are going to be same. They may have similarities, but at the end of the day they are two different, separate beings. What works for one child may not for the other. One of my girls was a fussy baby, and the other was super chill.One had chronic acid reflux and one was often constipated.One ate anything and the other was picky…. Basically just roll with it and treat them as separate babies who just happened to be womb-mates.
If you’re a fellow twin mom, (and even if you’re not) are there any other tips you would suggest to twin mom’s? Let me know!
Have a fabulous weekend!